Are You 100% Authentic?



Come December 31st each year, I am not one to make New Year’s resolutions or write down a long list of goals. I do, however, set intentions for how I want to feel and what I want to experience in my life.

My main intention for this year was to be the most authentic version of myself.

Since I had set such a powerful intention, I was willing to accept the shit storm everything that came with it. I knew that, by asking to be the most authentic me, I was going to have to face and let go of some pretty ugly and heavy stuff that had been lurking around for some 20 years.

You see: It wasn’t that I didn’t think I was already authentic. To be honest, I actually thought I was a pretty real, open, honest, and transparent person. But, over the past few months of going even deeper within myself, I have uncovered areas in my life where I wasn’t being fully truthful. For example: When my Mum or Dad would call me and ask how I was, my reply was always, ‘Yeah, good thanks!’ Don’t get me wrong! This is usually the case. But, more recently, I have stopped myself mid-way in my ‘Yeah, good’ response and replied, instead, ‘No. You know what, Dad? I am actually not feeling the best. I am feeling very emotional at the moment.’

Phew! What a relief it was to get that out! Something so simple as being real with my parents, in the moment, allowed such freedom to wash over me.

Why did I feel like I couldn’t be real with them?

I was shit scared of not being valuable. That’s why! I am ‘meant’ to have it together, aren’t I?

“Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.”
Brené Brown

I have recently been reading Brene Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection. She talks all about vulnerability and says, “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”

So, my question to you, my love, is: Are you being your true self? Are you showing up real in each moment? Let’s all be valuable and courageous together shall we.