When I first started on this inner journey toward my path to wellness, I was seeing an energetic healer, kinesiologist, holistic chiropractor, life coach, health coach, acupuncturist, reki master, body worker, naturopath, herbalist, Chinese doctor, western doctors, and meditation master. I was doing yoga, oiling, pulling, juicing, getting colonics and much more—all whilst spending thousands of dollars in the process. Essentially, I was hoping for these people and modalities to fix me. I so desperately wanted someone else to do it for me, to help me. Fix me. Save me.
The problem with this was that I put all my power outside of myself—in these people and healing modalities. I forgot that I am my own best guru. None of these people or modalities can do it for me.
You are your own best guru.
Remember that, gorgeous!
Don’t get me wrong! These services and healing modalities are definitely supportive and incredibly power. They are great tools to help you on your journey. Heck! I still use some of them. But, they aren’t the final answer…You are! You have, within you, the power to heal yourself. All you have to do is make the conscious decision to heal.
I just finished reading Dying to Be Me by Anita Moorjani. In it, she talks all about being her own best healer after her near death experience. I highly recommend this book! Ms. Moorjani talks about how she lived in a constant state of fear which fed her cancer. Dying to Be Me is a must read.
When I realised I was my own biggest guru, it was such a profound moment for me. This meant I was in control of my health and happiness. With this realisation, then, comes responsibility. It’s a responsibility some aren’t willing to accept. That’s okay, too. The main thing is to do what’s right for you.
It really is quite simple.
Now I want to hear from you, my love. Have you put your power outside of yourself before? Are you relying on people or things to fix, change, or improve you? Share with me in the comments below.
I recently shared with you what a day in my life looks like. I had a few people ask me these questions:
“What happens if I don’t get to do all that I want to do in the day?”
“What if you have to get on super early flights?”
“How do I cope when my day doesn’t look like that?”
These are all very valid questions.
The way I see it is s#%t is going to come up. Stuff will happen and your day might not pan out exactly how you had envisioned it. But that’s okay. The most important thing is to not be attached to the outcome. I love it when my day flows like this. But I also don’t care if it doesn’t. I am not attached and I don’t have any expectations. It just is what it is.
I believe that, when we put these strong rigid structures or routines in place, they can actually do more harm than good. You can start to feel stressed if you don’t completely stick to your ideal day. Or, you may feel guilty for listening to your body and sleeping in a little longer and missing your morning class. Stress and guilt are far worse for your health and overall wellness than missing a few yoga poses. Remember that. The key is to be relaxed and flow with your day. Don’t be married to the idea that your day has to pan out a certain way. Set your intention. Then, flow with it.
But I must mention even when my day goes tits up, there are still a few non-negotiables for me that I won’t let pass.
These are some of them:
- Meditation: It doesn’t matter how busy, tried, or cranky I am. I always meditate at least once a day. Sometimes my second one might fall off. That’s okay. I always make sure I get in at least one. Even with an eight-year-old running around, I still manage to get it done. It’s totally doable!
- Yoga: Even if it’s for only ten minutes, I make the effort. My yoga mat is always rolled out in the lounge room and ready to go.
- Good Food + Clean Water: I am the type of person that would rather wait until I get home to eat and drink instead of eating something out that is not so nourishing. Extreme? Maybe! But my health is far too important to succumb to toxic chemicals and fluoride-ridden water.
- Love + Connection: This is super important to me. I make sure there is always loads of love flowing through me and the people I come in contact with every day. I make sure I do all things with love.
What are your non-negotiables? I would love to hear them. Share with me in the comments below.
With all the buzz on the inter webs about B-School I wanted to make sure you are super clear with any questions you may have so that if you’re still sitting on the fence and hanging out in fear town you can make the best decision for you.
Last week I hosted a live jam to answer all your questions + I gave loads of advice and insights around my business and what has and hasn’t worked for me.
Watch the replay of my LIVE call below (skip to minute 10.40 where we actually start!)
Here are the top 5 burning B-School questions:
1. I am a busy Mum with 3 little ones and work part time. How much time will B-School take up? Will I be able to handle the workload?
The best thing about B-School is you can go at your own pace + you have life time access to it.
2. I don’t have a business and don’t yet have a defined business idea. Is B-School still for me?
Hell yeah, baby! This is exactly what Marie and I will help you hone in on and get crystal clear about. When I first did B-School 3 years ago I didn’t have a business idea but it all unfolded as I showed up. All you have to do is show you for yourself beautiful.
3. I wouldn’t have a clue about products or launches, will B-School and your bonuses help me get me started in that direction?
I had NO IDEA about this stuff before I did B-School. Marie makes is digestible and easy to implement. Plus I am also about to marry an online marketing and products launch guru. Kinda handy!
4. I can’t afford the full payment, is there payment options and what If I want a refund?
Total tuition is $1999 and Yes there is a payment option of 4 payments for $549. And yes there is a 30-day money-back so your risk is… zero.
5. It runs every year, should I just start next year?
In a year from now you will wish you started today. What are you waiting for? Your dream life is waiting. Your business isn’t going to take off on it’s own you have to take action. Remember there is only evolution and we have to keep moving forward. Don’t put off your dreams any longer.
There are only a few days left until B-School closes for the year so if you have any questions that I may have missed just pop them in the comments below and I will get back to you asap.
Over the years, I have struggled with how to deal with my feelings. Whenever sadness, anger, or frustration rose within me, I really didn’t know how to deal with them. So, I simply suppressed them, which isn’t a good idea. I was always searching for the tools to deal with my feelings.
Then, one day, I came up with The Pity Party Dance Off. The Pity Party Dance Off allows you to experience feelings fully and then let them go. Here is how it works:
Step 1: Whenever a feeling arises, immediately allow yourself to feel it. Go into a private room: the bathroom, the stock room at your work, a broom closet, or your home’s pantry. Any private spot will do just fine. Anywhere you will be alone and can fully express yourself.
Step 2: Once you enter the room put a ten-to-fifteen-minute (depending on the severity of your feelings) timer on your phone.
Step 3: Once the timer starts, allow yourself to express fully exactly how you are feeling in the moment. Maybe you need to cry, scream into a pillow, punch the air vigorously, jump up and down, shake out your entire body, or simply sit in complete stillness and just breathe deeply. Please note: You will intuitively know exactly what to do in that moment.
Step 4: Fully feel and express yourself until the timer goes off.
Step 5: Once the timer goes off and you have fully allowed yourself to feel exactly what it is you needed to feel, repeat this to yourself: ____________ [Insert name], I love you and you are safe. You can now let this go and move on.
Step 6: Then, play your favourite soundtrack on your phone. I love Rihanna’s “Shine Bright Like a Diamond” (It always makes me feel like a superstar!) or Katy Perry‘s “Roar”. Dance your heart out. Bonus points if you sing along as loudly as you can. This will instantly snap you out of your funk.
I personally have found this to be the best technique for allowing myself to quickly shed feelings and not have a week-long pity party for myself like I used to. Let’s face it: S#@t is always going to come up in our lives. But this technique allows you to fully feel it, shake is off, and then let it go.
The next time a feeling rises within you, have a Pity Party Dance Off. Let me know how it works for you.
Monday morning, I woke up with a cold sore. I did ten minutes of yoga, meditated, and then went straight back to bed. I am an incredibly driven and motivated person—always have been, thanks to my Dad. I never have an issue with getting stuff done or working for myself. However, I struggle at the not doing. It’s something I have been working on for a few years now. After I was ill, four years ago, I had to reassess my life. Up until then, I thought I was invincible. But, over the past four years, I continue to get these gentle little reminders from my body to slow down. I don’t ignore them anymore. Instead, I embrace them. This is the hardest part. In a society where go go go and be be be and do do do are all too familiar, it is tough to slip out of fifth gear and back into first.
Our bodies are always talking to us. So, don’t shoot the messenger.
Illness or disease are our gentle nudge’s to change something.
To slow down.
Don’t ignore the signs, my sweet friend.
I give you full permission to rest, or do whatever your body is telling you to do. Sometimes, permission is all we need.
Next time you feel your body giving you a slight nudge, don’t ignore it. Embrace it and listen to it. You don’t need to soldier on. You’re allowed to feel whatever it is you are feeling.
Do you shoot the messenger when something comes up? Share with me in the comments below.
The best thing about being an entrepreneur is that you get to carve out your life exactly how you want it to look. You map out your days exactly how you desire. It’s awesome!
I always get asked how my day’s look so I wanted to share it with you.
Slowly wake up, wash my face, brush my teeth and drink a massive class of warm water with apple cider vinegar.
6:00am – 6:30am
Yoga time in my lounge room.
6:30am – 7:00am
Meditation + some journalling and playing with angel cards if I feel.
7:00am - 8:00am
Make a green smoothie and breakfast with my darling fiancé whilst singing in the kitchen. Sometimes we have music playing and may have a little dance off.
On week’s I have my 8 year old step son (Leo), this is the time when I wake him up with loads of kisses, then get him dressed for school, make his breakfast and lunch and kiss him as many times as I possibly can.
9:00am – 11:00am
Email hour (I only check emails twice a day for 1 hour, unless I am waiting for something very urgent).
More clients or writing or working on one of my projects.
Time to cook up a beautiful lunch. I make big organic salad and some protein, then I eat it in the sunshine.
2:00pm – 4:00pm
Writing or working on one of my projects.
4:00pm – 5:00pm
Meditation. I meditate for 20 minutes twice a day and love it.
Any last minute work bits and bobs that need addressing.
Time to start making dinner.
My fiancé and I love cooking up a storm in the kitchen together. We chat, laugh and dance around whilst infusing all our food with love.
Dinner and carpet chats with my darling usually sat on the floor around our coffee table. Carpet chats are our time to sit and connect. No phones, TV or computers just us.
7:00pm – 8:00pm
Cleaning up and time to do anything else around the house.
Some light yoga and breathing.
Shower then bed time. Sometimes I read in bed or in the bath.
I must mention that my days don’t always pan out like this. Things come up, but I am ok with that. I am open and flexible and know that everything is always happening for the most perfect reason. I am not ridged or strict. I believe that is key. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t stick to your usual routine. Go with the flow and know that everything will always happen in divine time.
P.S On week’s we have Leo my days change. There are school pick up’s and afternoon ocean swims that take priority
What do you think of my day? Is your’s similar or completely different? Share with me in the comments below.
Isn’t it funny when things start to flow in our life? For example: Work is going well. Home life is peachy. You’re finally out of debt. You can now hold a plank for one whole minute. You start to move through your day with a sense of ease and grace. But then complacency kicks in. We ditch the tools that got us there in the first place and become a bit too big for our own boots.
Can you relate?
Last week, I found myself saying to my fiancé, “I don’t need to meditate today.” He almost spat out his green smoothie at the ridiculousness of this statement.
You see: Meditation is our medicine.
Taking the time to connect to that expansive space within us is what allows us to continue to dive deeper within ourselves.
You become more aware, clear, open, and more you when you are constantly connecting and tapping into that infinite space. Without it, we are lost.
When things start to flow, don’t get cocky. Keep working, my sweet friend. Don’t slack off.
When you heal yourself from an illness or disease, quit your toxic lifestyle, or finally lose the weight you have been wanting to lose for years, don’t throw in the towel. Don’t head to Macca’s and slip back into your old ways. You work even harder to maintain what you have accomplished. You keep going. You keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Don’t let complacency hold you back and let your mean girl take over. Use those times of flow to stay on top of everything and keep the ball rolling.
Momentum is bliss. Complacency is stagnation.
Can you relate my sweet friend? Has there been moments where things are going great and you slack off only to find yourself clawing to get back? Share with me in the comments below.
Fear (or as I like to call it your Mean Girl) is what holds us back from taking risks, living boldly, diving through fear and swimming towards our truth.
Your Mean Girl is that nasty voice inside our head that tells us we aren’t good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough or successful enough to do and be all that we want to be. It keeps us small and lost in the dark streets of fear town, stopping us from reaching our full potential and shining bright like a diamond. That’s your mean girl doing her nasty things, but the best part is you don’t have to subscribe to that.
When I first started my business a few years ago, I had so much of fear swimming around my head.
No one is going to read your work.
Who do you think you are trying to run your own business.
Six figures??!! HAHA good luck.
My mean girl went on a rant and I let her. More than I should have allowed. She almost stopped me from launching my highly successful book (which got picked up by a publisher) 12 Steps To Wellness, touring with Babes Not Bears and Step It Up. But, I am in a place now where I have mastered her. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect and definitely not enlightened. There are still moments when she rears her ugly head. However, I have learnt how to master her and not let her win.
Psst! I want to let you in on a little secret. I am working on a kick ass live event and online program called Mastering Your Mean Girl which will help you learn that art of mean girl mastery. More on this to come.
But now, I’m inviting you to join me in watching Marie Forleo’s latest training vid to learn more about fear. This is what you will learn in this video:
- The 7 common excuses that hold entrepreneurs back — and how to overcome them
- How real entrepreneurs have created powerful results– spiritually, emotionally and financially — for themselves and their families.
- How you can snag scholarships to Marie’s B-School (make sure you watch till the end of the video!)
Wasn’t that simply inspiring and eye-opening?
And remember, if I can do it, then so can you. You deserve this.
I used to think that successful people were more gifted than me, luckier than me or got a head start in life. But the truth is we are all the same. We all can do and be whomever we want to be.
What key take-away did you get from watching Marie that you can apply in your life or business? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below!
P.S Every year Marie gives away scholarships to BSchool (how cool is that!). So, if you want to get your hot little hands on one, be sure you watch the video all the way through till the end to find out how! And even if business is not your thing share the love, baby! Forward this email to someone who could benefit from this free training series OR that B-School scholarship >>>
P.P.S School is in session Registrations for B-School is only open from the 19th of February until the 5th of March so that means you’ll only be able to enrol during this period. So make sure you GO HERE and lookout for updates from me. Trust me, I have a treat for you!
I used to think money and marketing were dirty words and I often had this limiting belief that when I embarked on my wellness journey and started my own business, I would have to wear harem pants, crop tops and grow my arm pits. I thought to be an entrepreneur, helping people and being of service you couldn’t be abundant. Boy was I wrong! So wrong! I also thought marketing was slimy and inauthentic and had never imagined or understood such a thing as authentic marketing. That is until I did Marie’s BSchool, where she taught me everything I know and helped me get rid of the limiting beliefs that were holding me back.
That’s why I want to share this with you.
This video is for anyone who wants to make a difference in the world, and make money whilst doing it.
You see, when you are being of service to the world and living your passion money flows because you are doing what is true for you. The world needs your message, and all you need is the tools and Marie can show you how.
In this free video you will learn:
- Marie’s “dirty little secret” to making millions authenticity online.
- The single most important factor to making an income, and an impact authenticity online.
- 13 simple, but on-point strategies for making your business really work and thrive in the online space.
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And don’t forget to download the free fun sheet so you can start to implement these tools into your business right away.
P.S I am a proud advocate of BSchool and you know I don’t recommend things lightly!.I stand by Marie and BSchool 100% and am encouraging you to if you sign up via my link so you can receive all support and guidance while you’re enrolled in BSchool.
P.P.S BSchool only comes around once a year and this is my third year of doing BSchool (yep, I love it so much I keep going back for more). This year I will be offering some serious (and I mean SERIOUS) bonuses to support you through your BSchool journey. So keep an eye on your inbox for more details coming soon. You will NOT want to miss this juicy baby.
For about a decade, I trashed my body. I had an eating disorder. I polluted my body with drugs and alcohol. I lived off little to no sleep. I pushed myself way too hard in order to ‘succeed’. I thought Starbucks’ skinny caramel lattes were healthy and an acceptable meal substitute. I lived off pain killers every day for almost a year when I was a dancer at the Moulin Rouge. I was nursing a torn hammy which I pushed through for 12 shows a week doing Can Can kicks and jump splits. (Ouch!) I quickly opted for antibiotics whenever I had a sniffle. I took Cortisol tablets and creams whenever my eczema would rear its ugly head. And, I burnt the candle at both ends many, many times until my body conked out.
That was four and a half years ago. But, even today, I am still paying the price. I am undoing years and years of damage.
Today, I have trabecular oedema in my right hip from dancing and pushing through that torn hammy. This causes lower back pain and pretty much puts my whole body out of whack. I wake up in pain pretty much every day. I am twenty-seven years old and I wake up in pain…Seriously!
I am not saying all this to get sympathy. I am sharing this with you simply to show you the repercussions of how I treated my body when I was younger. When you put things into perspective this is nothing compared to what some people are going through. People are dying. Others have serious illnesses and diseases.
I want to share this with you because I don’t want you to trash your bodies and pay the price later. I see too many beautiful women self-sabotaging, letting their mean girl win. We have to stop.
I am so grateful for everything I have been through because it has led me to where I am today. I am on the mend. However, my body is still paying the price.
Treat your body like a temple.
And nourish the heck out of it.
We all know what our bodies need in order to thrive. So, do it, my dear friend. Do whatever it takes in order for you to feel 100%. Don’t push your self-care to the bottom of your “to do” list. It’s time to make self-care your number one priority so that you can show up in life as the BEST VERSION OF YOU.
Here’s a list of some of the things I do most days in order to nourish my temple:
- I eat organic foods.
- I meditate twice a day and do some gentle yoga in the morning.
- I dry body brush every morning.
- I get to bed by 9 p.m. and get eight hours of sleep every night.
- I drink loads of filtered water and herbal teas throughout the day.
- I lather my body in coconut oil and only use organic products on my body.
- I hardly ever wear makeup and don’t use perfume.
- I have plants in my office and around my home to filter the air.
- I have three large Himalayan salt lamps around my home and office.
- I drink a glass of bone broth each day.
- I make sure I connect with Mother Nature each day.
- I do something for myself each day whether it’s reading in the bath, swimming in the ocean, or walking in nature.
This list might seem quite long. But, I don’t ever even think twice about it now. These habits have become so embedded that it’s like brushing my teeth. I never have to think about self-care. I just do it.
The above list includes just some ideas for you to sink your teeth into. I want to hear yours my darling. Share with me in the comments below what you do to nourish your sweet temple.
Before I go, together I want us to make a public declaration here to stop trashing our bodies. Let’s honour these beautiful temples we were given.