You Are Your Own Guru


When I first started on this inner journey toward my path to wellness, I was seeing an energetic healer, kinesiologist, holistic chiropractor, life coach, health coach, acupuncturist, reki master, body worker, naturopath, herbalist, Chinese doctor, western doctors, and meditation master. I was doing yoga, oiling, pulling, juicing, getting colonics and much more—all whilst spending thousands of dollars in the process. Essentially, I was hoping for these people and modalities to fix me. I so desperately wanted someone else to do it for me, to help me. Fix me. Save me.

The problem with this was that I put all my power outside of myself—in these people and healing modalities. I forgot that I am my own best guru. None of these people or modalities can do it for me.

You are your own best guru. 
Remember that, gorgeous! ;)

Don’t get me wrong! These services and healing modalities are definitely supportive and incredibly power. They are great tools to help you on your journey. Heck! I still use some of them. But, they aren’t the final answer…You are! You have, within you, the power to heal yourself. All you have to do is make the conscious decision to heal. 

I just finished reading Dying to Be Me by Anita Moorjani. In it, she talks all about being her own best healer after her near death experience. I highly recommend this book! Ms. Moorjani talks about how she lived in a constant state of fear which fed her cancer. Dying to Be Me is a must read.

When I realised I was my own biggest guru, it was such a profound moment for me. This meant I was in control of my health and happiness. With this realisation, then, comes responsibility. It’s a responsibility some aren’t willing to accept. That’s okay, too. The main thing is to do what’s right for you.

It really is quite simple.

Now I want to hear from you, my love. Have you put your power outside of yourself before? Are you relying on people or things to fix, change, or improve you? Share with me in the comments below.


Monday morning, I woke up with a cold sore. I did ten minutes of yoga, meditated, and then went straight back to bed. I am an incredibly driven and motivated person—always have been, thanks to my Dad. I never have an issue with getting stuff done or working for myself. However, I struggle at the not doing. It’s something I have been working on for a few years now. After I was ill, four years ago, I had to reassess my life. Up until then, I thought I was invincible. But, over the past four years, I continue to get these gentle little reminders from my body to slow down. I don’t ignore them anymore. Instead, I embrace them. This is the hardest part. In a society where go go go and be be be and do do do are all too familiar, it is tough to slip out of fifth gear and back into first.

Our bodies are always talking to us. So, don’t shoot the messenger.

Illness or disease are our gentle nudge’s to change something.

To slow down.

To stop.

To listen.

Don’t ignore the signs, my sweet friend.

I give you full permission to rest, or do whatever your body is telling you to do. Sometimes, permission is all we need.

Next time you feel your body giving you a slight nudge, don’t ignore it. Embrace it and listen to it. You don’t need to soldier on. You’re allowed to feel whatever it is you are feeling.

Do you shoot the messenger when something comes up? Share with me in the comments below.

Path To Wellness

Image – Pressed Juicery

For about a decade, I trashed my body. I had an eating disorder. I polluted my body with drugs and alcohol. I lived off little to no sleep. I pushed myself way too hard in order to ‘succeed’. I thought Starbucks’ skinny caramel lattes were healthy and an acceptable meal substitute. I lived off pain killers every day for almost a year when I was a dancer at the Moulin Rouge. I was nursing a torn hammy which I pushed through for 12 shows a week doing Can Can kicks and jump splits. (Ouch!) I quickly opted for antibiotics whenever I had a sniffle. I took Cortisol tablets and creams whenever my eczema would rear its ugly head. And, I burnt the candle at both ends many, many times until my body conked out.

That was four and a half years ago. But, even today, I am still paying the price. I am undoing years and years of damage.

Today, I have trabecular oedema in my right hip from dancing and pushing through that torn hammy. This causes lower back pain and pretty much puts my whole body out of whack. I wake up in pain pretty much every day. I am twenty-seven years old and I wake up in pain…Seriously!

I am not saying all this to get sympathy. I am sharing this with you simply to show you the repercussions of how I treated my body when I was younger. When you put things into perspective this is nothing compared to what some people are going through. People are dying. Others have serious illnesses and diseases.

I want to share this with you because I don’t want you to trash your bodies and pay the price later. I see too many beautiful women self-sabotaging, letting their mean girl win. We have to stop.

I am so grateful for everything I have been through because it has led me to where I am today. I am on the mend. However, my body is still paying the price.

Treat your body like a temple. 

Honour it. 

Cherish it. 

Fuel it. 

And nourish the heck out of it. 

We all know what our bodies need in order to thrive. So, do it, my dear friend. Do whatever it takes in order for you to feel 100%. Don’t push your self-care to the bottom of your “to do” list. It’s time to make self-care your number one priority so that you can show up in life as the BEST VERSION OF YOU. 

Here’s a list of some of the things I do most days in order to nourish my temple:

  • I eat organic foods.
  • I meditate twice a day and do some gentle yoga in the morning.
  • I dry body brush every morning.
  • I get to bed by 9 p.m. and get eight hours of sleep every night.
  • I drink loads of filtered water and herbal teas throughout the day.
  • I lather my body in coconut oil and only use organic products on my body.
  • I hardly ever wear makeup and don’t use perfume.
  • I have plants in my office and around my home to filter the air.
  • I have three large Himalayan salt lamps around my home and office.
  • I drink a glass of bone broth each day.
  • I make sure I connect with Mother Nature each day.
  • I do something for myself each day whether it’s reading in the bath, swimming in the ocean, or walking in nature.

This list might seem quite long. But, I don’t ever even think twice about it now. These habits have become so embedded that it’s like brushing my teeth. I never have to think about self-care. I just do it.

The above list includes just some ideas for you to sink your teeth into. I want to hear yours my darling. Share with me in the comments below what you do to nourish your sweet temple.

Before I go, together I want us to make a public declaration here to stop trashing our bodies. Let’s honour these beautiful temples we were given.

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You’re probably using all organic chemical free skin care by now but what about your lady products?

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Guest post by Christian Miranda

Sometimes the structure and routine that is required of us to achieve the goals we’ve set ourselves can become a daunting experience.

  1. Waking up at 5am.
  2. Pushing yourself to that point of failure.
  3. Turning up to training feeling sore and fatigued from the day before.

It is times like these that having a training partner can provide that extra little bit of motivation to see our journey toward our goals be maintained! Being accountable to ourselves should always be our number one priority, but knowing that someone else is reliant on your support and encouragement can be a hugely beneficial aspect of training.

Drag one of your friends along to the park for today’s workout. Support and encourage each other, push yourself not only for you, but for your friend also for the quicker you get each component completed the quicker you get to move on to the next part of the challenge.

It’s great to be self disciplined and individual in your approach to training, but life’s a hell of a lot more fun when sharing experiences with friends.

Smash yourselves in this workout and enjoy the process together!

Let me know how you go in the comments below.

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Good luck!


Guest Post by Christian Miranda

In an age where we are constantly smothered with the latest training ideas and exercises we forget how beneficial simple training approaches can really be.

In my gym at ONE PTS Padstow, I refuse to have treadmills and cross-trainers. Sure there is a time and place for rehabilitative work at times, but the reality is there is nothing that can’t be achieved without those types of equipment by going to a local park or running track. We’ve become too dependant on fancy equipment and luxurious training environments to ‘do the work for us’ that we have neglected what it is that really allows us to achieve the results we want.

TRX, kettlebells, swiss balls, resistance bands – each of these pieces of equipment serve a particular purpose and are beneficial in their own right, but that’s not to say that good old running and hill sprints isn’t of benefit anymore!

Find a tough set of stairs or a challenging hill and prepare your mind for what it is you are about to do. You are not just going to ‘complete’ the session. You want to do it as hard as you possibly can. Take yourself to the next level and absolutely smash yourself.  Use this session as an opportunity to see what you’re capable of.

Sprint – as hard as you possibly can – at maximum intensity, for 30 secs. Then rest for 90 secs. This is to be repeated 10 times in total. You’ll find that there is enough rest to fully recover – don’t be concerned by your results: how far you go, how fast you went. As good as these things are to measure performance, that’s not what this set is about. Rather, focus on your perceived effort. How hard did you really push? Did you realise the difference between going hard and going f#*king hard? For those that reach that point for the first time – I look forward to hearing how satisfying it was to complete a session at maximum intensity, with nothing but you and your attitude to thank.

Do your best girls – better than you’ve done before!

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Join the tribe and post a photo on Instagram with you giving this workout a go. You can use the tags #wednesdaysworkout #onepts #pathtowellness #12stepstowellness

Good luck!


Guest post by Christian Miranda


The mere mention of ‘weights training’ is enough to put a lot of girls off exercise completely! There are many misconceptions when it comes to this very important component of exercise. Sure – yoga, pilates, trx, swiss balls, boxing, running – and many other forms of exercise, are all great ways to keep fit, but the underlying reason why we do these things is because we enjoy them. Because we enjoy them, we get the most out of them. Because of this, we get results – therefore we credit these results to whatever form of exercise we’ve been committed to.


But what if we understood the benefits of lifting weights? Surely then we can appreciate the benefits it provides and understand just how important it is to complement the other forms of exercise with this type of training.


Every persons body is different in regards to how it responds to training. It’s important to experiment with different approaches to find the best one for you.


This is the most common response when women are asked to participate in strength training:


‘I don’t want to bulk up!’


But here’s the thing:

  • Women don’t produce the same amounts of testosterone (a naturally occurring steroid hormone) as men do, therefore it takes a hell of a lot of strength training for a female to ‘bulk up’. They may decrease body fat and show more definition yes, but to rapidly increase lean muscle mass is a very difficult thing to do and is unlikely to happen when doing 30 + reps of 2kg dumbbells. Even for a male, it takes quite an intense strength program to increase muscle mass.
  • Any trainer that tells you ‘oh it must just be muscle’ when you weigh in at the end of your training program and haven’t achieved the weight loss you were looking for is full of shit. Unless you were following a structured strength based program where your primary purpose was to increase lean muscle mass and develop overall strength and power gains, it is highly unlikely that you have increased 1-2kg of muscle mass by throwing a medicine ball around. You may have toned up, decreased body fat, improved strength, increased overall tone, but to so generally put something like that down to an increase in muscle mass for someone training 1-2 times a week and lifting no more than 3-4kg above their head is a ridiculous comment.


So, what are the practical benefits of introducing strength training in our program:

  • Increased strength: this allows us to challenge ourselves on a much deeper level in all other forms of exercise, enabling us to better perform all movements with more control and stability.
  • Improved muscular tone: any girl that finds the bum and legs a problem area should be squatting! If they already squat and still haven’t seen improvements, they need to work on their technique or perform glute activation exercises to ensure they are firing properly so that the correct muscles are being recruited.
  • Variety: get out of your comfort zone and embrace the challenge of lifting heavy things – you’ll find it can be quite an empowering experience and one that will change your mindset and perception of your ability forever.


Try this workout and let me know how your body feels two days later – I guarantee you it is a feeling that whilst agonisingly painful at the time, will be welcomed in the weeks to come given the benefits you’ll see in your body!




10 x 10 reps w 30secs Rest

ODD SETS – Barbell Back Squat @ 20kg

EVEN SETS – Barbell Squat and Press @ 20kg




Please adjust the weights accordingly, maintaining an emphasis on quality technique. Seek assistance from a health professional if you are unsure of what weight to use.


Make sure the weight that you choose is a challenging one. Please ensure that you are hitting full depth and opening the hips up top to work through the full range of the movement.


Girls – YES you will be sore. YES its going to be uncomfortable to go to sit down on the toilet. YES you’ll be walking funny. But you’ll have just put yourself through a workout that does wonders for your legs and bum…I’ll leave it up to you to decide whether or not its worth it ;) Once you’ve done this once, you can continue to improve on it in future weeks to ensure you never feel this same level of soreness again, given it’s your first time.


Let me know how you go in the comments below.


Good luck!

1013120_162237073961191_919283682_nI talk about the importance of moving your body in my eBook 12 Steps to Wellness I feel it’s such an important topic. Studies have shown that thirty minutes a day is just not cutting it any more. We need to move our buns for at least an hour a day—especially if you sit down all day long.

Working out doesn’t have to be a chore or something you despise. I get excited to train. Even though it’s hard and sometimes I want to puke, I always feel freaking awesome after.

This week, I have been training with Jess up here in QLD. It has really reminded me of the importance of doing something you enjoy (whilst still challenging yourself) and working out with awesome people.

If exercise isn’t your thing but you want to learn how to fall in love with moving your tush, try these:

Find something you enjoy

Whether it’s boxing, yoga, soft sand running, weights, Pilates, walking, swimming, paddle boarding, or dancing, it really doesn’t matter what form of movement it is just as long as you are moving and getting your heart rate up.


Mix it up

I have a friend who has done body pump and body attack for almost eighteen years and wonders why she can’t get results. I am not saying they aren’t good for you. But, your body likes diversity. It needs to be shocked by doing different forms of exercise. So, make sure you mix it up, gorgeous.


Train with your bestie

I LOVE training with my besties. However, it’s always good to plan a little catch up either before or after you train. That way you don’t talk the entire way through the session….Guilty!


Work out from love not fear

I used to slog it out on the treadmill for an hour because I hated what I saw in the mirror (fear). Now, I work out because I love it (love) and the way it makes me feel. Are you working out from fear or love?


Quit listening to your meal girl

Know that the voice that says,  “I can’t go any farther!”, or  “I can’t hold plank for two minutes!” is just your mean girl (or boy). Our bodies are amazing. They can do awesome things. So, be aware of this when your mean girl tries to tell you otherwise.


Our bodies are meant to move. They love movement! So, get out there and fall in love with moving your cute tush.


Now, I want to hear from you, my love. Do you love working out? If so, what do you love about it? Share with me in the comments below.


Time for YOU


Guest post by Christian Miranda from ONEPTS

How much time do you actually dedicate to yourself?

Whether you’re a mother, business owner, wife, girlfriend, student or teenager – the time we actually dedicate toward producing the best possible version of ourselves is precious and must be maximised if we are to truly realise our potential.

From a health and fitness point of view, many of us put aside a few hours each week to train. It’s important that this time is appreciated and the right mental and physical approach is applied so as to gain the greatest possible benefit. Be sure that your weekly schedule consists of things that allow you to work toward the goals you want to achieve and be aware of the impact that the time away from that commitment is also very precious, often having an even greater impact on the end result than what you may have previously thought.


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- Love Melissa