I recently shared with you what a day in my life looks like. I had a few people ask me these questions:
“What happens if I don’t get to do all that I want to do in the day?”
“What if you have to get on super early flights?”
“How do I cope when my day doesn’t look like that?”
These are all very valid questions.
The way I see it is s#%t is going to come up. Stuff will happen and your day might not pan out exactly how you had envisioned it. But that’s okay. The most important thing is to not be attached to the outcome. I love it when my day flows like this. But I also don’t care if it doesn’t. I am not attached and I don’t have any expectations. It just is what it is.
I believe that, when we put these strong rigid structures or routines in place, they can actually do more harm than good. You can start to feel stressed if you don’t completely stick to your ideal day. Or, you may feel guilty for listening to your body and sleeping in a little longer and missing your morning class. Stress and guilt are far worse for your health and overall wellness than missing a few yoga poses. Remember that. The key is to be relaxed and flow with your day. Don’t be married to the idea that your day has to pan out a certain way. Set your intention. Then, flow with it.
But I must mention even when my day goes tits up, there are still a few non-negotiables for me that I won’t let pass.
These are some of them:
- Meditation: It doesn’t matter how busy, tried, or cranky I am. I always meditate at least once a day. Sometimes my second one might fall off. That’s okay. I always make sure I get in at least one. Even with an eight-year-old running around, I still manage to get it done. It’s totally doable!
- Yoga: Even if it’s for only ten minutes, I make the effort. My yoga mat is always rolled out in the lounge room and ready to go.
- Good Food + Clean Water: I am the type of person that would rather wait until I get home to eat and drink instead of eating something out that is not so nourishing. Extreme? Maybe! But my health is far too important to succumb to toxic chemicals and fluoride-ridden water.
- Love + Connection: This is super important to me. I make sure there is always loads of love flowing through me and the people I come in contact with every day. I make sure I do all things with love.
What are your non-negotiables? I would love to hear them. Share with me in the comments below.
Isn’t it funny when things start to flow in our life? For example: Work is going well. Home life is peachy. You’re finally out of debt. You can now hold a plank for one whole minute. You start to move through your day with a sense of ease and grace. But then complacency kicks in. We ditch the tools that got us there in the first place and become a bit too big for our own boots.
Can you relate?
Last week, I found myself saying to my fiancé, “I don’t need to meditate today.” He almost spat out his green smoothie at the ridiculousness of this statement.
You see: Meditation is our medicine.
Taking the time to connect to that expansive space within us is what allows us to continue to dive deeper within ourselves.
You become more aware, clear, open, and more you when you are constantly connecting and tapping into that infinite space. Without it, we are lost.
When things start to flow, don’t get cocky. Keep working, my sweet friend. Don’t slack off.
When you heal yourself from an illness or disease, quit your toxic lifestyle, or finally lose the weight you have been wanting to lose for years, don’t throw in the towel. Don’t head to Macca’s and slip back into your old ways. You work even harder to maintain what you have accomplished. You keep going. You keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Don’t let complacency hold you back and let your mean girl take over. Use those times of flow to stay on top of everything and keep the ball rolling.
Momentum is bliss. Complacency is stagnation.
Can you relate my sweet friend? Has there been moments where things are going great and you slack off only to find yourself clawing to get back? Share with me in the comments below.
Fear (or as I like to call it your Mean Girl) is what holds us back from taking risks, living boldly, diving through fear and swimming towards our truth.
Your Mean Girl is that nasty voice inside our head that tells us we aren’t good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough or successful enough to do and be all that we want to be. It keeps us small and lost in the dark streets of fear town, stopping us from reaching our full potential and shining bright like a diamond. That’s your mean girl doing her nasty things, but the best part is you don’t have to subscribe to that.
When I first started my business a few years ago, I had so much of fear swimming around my head.
No one is going to read your work.
Who do you think you are trying to run your own business.
Six figures??!! HAHA good luck.
My mean girl went on a rant and I let her. More than I should have allowed. She almost stopped me from launching my highly successful book (which got picked up by a publisher) 12 Steps To Wellness, touring with Babes Not Bears and Step It Up. But, I am in a place now where I have mastered her. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect and definitely not enlightened. There are still moments when she rears her ugly head. However, I have learnt how to master her and not let her win.
Psst! I want to let you in on a little secret. I am working on a kick ass live event and online program called Mastering Your Mean Girl which will help you learn that art of mean girl mastery. More on this to come.
But now, I’m inviting you to join me in watching Marie Forleo’s latest training vid to learn more about fear. This is what you will learn in this video:
- The 7 common excuses that hold entrepreneurs back — and how to overcome them
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- How you can snag scholarships to Marie’s B-School (make sure you watch till the end of the video!)
Wasn’t that simply inspiring and eye-opening?
And remember, if I can do it, then so can you. You deserve this.
I used to think that successful people were more gifted than me, luckier than me or got a head start in life. But the truth is we are all the same. We all can do and be whomever we want to be.
What key take-away did you get from watching Marie that you can apply in your life or business? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below!
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I used to think money and marketing were dirty words and I often had this limiting belief that when I embarked on my wellness journey and started my own business, I would have to wear harem pants, crop tops and grow my arm pits. I thought to be an entrepreneur, helping people and being of service you couldn’t be abundant. Boy was I wrong! So wrong! I also thought marketing was slimy and inauthentic and had never imagined or understood such a thing as authentic marketing. That is until I did Marie’s BSchool, where she taught me everything I know and helped me get rid of the limiting beliefs that were holding me back.
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I recently had an experience where someone very close to me took out their s#$t on me. As it was happening, I was totally conscious of what was going on. Even after the event, I was well aware that this was their stuff. But an ickyness lurked over me and I couldn’t shake it. So as I do, I sat with it. I leaned into it and allowed myself to fully feel whatever it was that was bubbling away inside me. I noticed my mean girl run off with a few thoughts and stories. But, I quickly bought myself back to the truth: This is not my stuff.
The lesson for me was to not take it personally. When I noticed my mean girl wanting to take it personally and make it all about me, I stopped her. Your mean girl will try and make you take it
personally in order to keep you in fear. Don’t let her. If you can see this is someone else’s stuff, just be aware of it.
So, when someone else projectile vomits their stuff on us, how to we shield ourselves?
Simply remind yourself that this isn’t yours. That’s it! Don’t run away with any stories or try and make it about you. It’s just their stuff and you don’t need to over-analyse it.
Give it a go, my loves.
I often hear people say, “You must be so busy!” The truth is: Yeah, I have stuff going on. But, don’t we all? We all have things to do, businesses to run, empires to create, mouths to feed, and beds that need to be made. But some people act like being busy is a competition. Weird, huh!
I believe busyness is a choice.
And I choose not to be busy. I choose to flow through my day with ease and grace.
Don’t get me wrong! There are times when I feel overwhelmed. But, that doesn’t last as long as it used to.
Now, I am going to let you in on my little secret: You see, over the last 6-12 months, as my life has become ‘busier and busier’, I have also made it simpler and simpler. I am constantly streamlining, outsourcing, and getting extra support whenever I can.
I once had this stinky belief that I had to do it all alone. I thought that asking for help was a sign of weakness. I carried this around for many years. Then, it hit me: Asking for support is actually incredibly empowering.
Don’t be afraid to put your hand up and say, “I need help!”
Hire a coach, a cleaner, a PA, a marketing guru, a manager, someone to do your admin and run your errands. Whatever you need. Important note: This doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. There are great recourses like Elance, O Desk and Air Tasker that can help with this sort of thing.
My philosophy is: Do all things with love.
So, what are you doing in your life or business that isn’t from love?
Can you outsource it so that you can free up some of your valuable time? Time that could be used for creating that product, writing, brain storming, and doing the things you love.
Make a list now of the things that you are currently doing that you don’t love.
Share them with me in the comments below.
I should go to the gym this morning.
I should eat better today.
I should meditate.
I should clean my house.
I should call my parents back.
I should eat more greens.
I should dry body brush.
I should get up at 5:30 a. m.
I should get my tush to yoga.
I should journal.
I should be more grateful.
I should make more effort with my relationships.
This was my internal dialogue five years ago. I was constantly should-ing all over the place. Then, I realised that I ‘shouldn’t’ do anything that I ‘should’ do.
You see should’s come from your ego (aka mean girl or bad boy) and not your heart (your true self). If it came from your heart there wouldn’t even be a thought. You would just do it, and do it from love. You see the difference?
In my home there are no should’s. If they ever pop up, we quickly catch each other and change it around.
Try using this dialogue instead of the above:
I would love to move my body today because I love the way it makes me feel.
I love, honour, and respect my body. So, nourishing it with the best quality food is a non-negotiable for me today.
I love meditation as it brings me back into my body and allows me to be fully present. I am going to do it right now.
My space is a reflection of me. So, I will keep it organised, clean, and tidy.
I am so grateful for my parents. So, I am going to stop, take ten minutes, get present, and call them back because I love them.
Greens nourish my body and give me energy and clear skin. So, I am going to load up on them today.
I love dry body brushing and will commit to it every morning before my shower.
I love getting up at 5:30 in the morning and letting my elegant morning routine play out. It makes me feel alive and ready for the day.
I love the way my body feels when I do yoga. So, I am going to do it right now.
Journaling allows me to get in touch with how I am feeling. So, I am going to do it right now.
I am so grateful for my health, life, relationships, partners, and home.
My relationships are a reflection of me. So, I am going to nurture, honour, and respect them.
See the difference?
Next time you catch yourself should-ing all over the place, here’s what you can do:
- Take a deep breath.
- Ground yourself.
- Get out of your head and back into your heart space.
- Rephrase your sentence.
- Make your sentence active rather than passive.
- Like anything, this takes time. Remember: You are reprogramming old patterns that have been around for twenty, thirty, or even forty years. It isn’t going to be a walk in the park or an overnight change. Be gentle and patient with yourself.
Important note: You might like to share this post with your family and friend and let them know that you aren’t going to use the word should any more so that you can all hold each other accountable and support each other.
Now, I want to hear from you. Are you a should-er? What should’s should you do? Share with me in the comments below.
Hey there beautiful!
Now, more than ever, I am being asked this question by people from across the globe…
“How do I live an amazing life, full of purpose and meaning?”
I want to give you the answer… but first…
As you would know, I’m constantly researching and investing time in this area of life to make sure I have the best info on hand. I do this for myself and you my tribe.
I’m going to give you that information, but in return, I’d like to ask you a favour.
Could you please answer these quick questions below for me?
This information you share will help me give you the happiness that has you smiling all day long for no reason at all.
I’ll be in touch with the answer to that question very soon!
I love nothing more than people speaking their truth. None of this beating around the bush, pretending everything is rosy and walking on egg shells. Just say it how it is, God damn it! We beat around the bush because we are so scared to be rejected by others. We will manipulate the situation in order to feel loved, accepted, and approved of: The ultimate desires of human beings. We humans will do anything to feel love, acceptance, and approval—even suppress our own truth. Crazy, huh!
Last week, I had a few different situations with some girlfriends. We all called each other on our s#$t. Yes, it can feel scary and uncomfortable! But, what’s more uncomfortable is suppressing your own truth.
One of my besties called me yesterday and said, “Mel, I felt sad when you said blah blah blah….” After we had an open discussion and resolved the misunderstanding, I shared with her how proud of her I was for actually coming to me and sharing how she felt. I know it’s not easy.
I want authentic relationships in my life. None of this fake stuff! I want the real deal. So, if that means speaking my truth and sharing how I feel, then so be it.
When something comes up for me, I speak it straight away. I used to suppress it and let it boil up inside me for weeks, months, and even years. I believe that is how illness and disease manifest in the body. So, no more of that, thank you.
If you want authentic relationships in your life, try these steps next time you find yourself in a situation where you are about to suppress your truth:
- Take in a few deep breaths.
- Open your chest and shoulders.
- Ground both your feet firmly into the earth.
- Connect with your solar plexus and speak from your heart. If you notice yourself going up to your head, don’t speak. Reground yourself. Make sure you are completely grounded before you open your mouth. That way, everything you say will be coming from your heart and not your head (aka mean girl).
Now, I want to hear from you, my darling. Have you found yourself suppressing your truth in order to be accepted by someone else? Share with me in the comments below.
Gone are the days when phones were not smart and all they did was call and text and the only game on them was “Snake”. Now we have voter, Instagram, Facebook, twitter, iMessage, whatsapp, kick, emails, Skype, text and so many more. I recently wrote about feeling incredibly overwhelmed after coming back from my ten-day holiday. Emails were coming out my ears and I was beginning to hate looking at my computer. I felt scared of my phone. This has never happened to me before. But, I have also never had this many projects and fun things I am currently working on at the same time.
Does anyone else feel like 2013 went incredibly fast? Like lightning-bolt fast? Reflecting back, I actually can’t believe it. Why is that? Why do we feel like the years are just passing us by?
The reason is because we fill in all the gaps with our phone and computer. We are constantly tapped in and connecting. This leaves no space to just be. Heck, even going to the loo has been interrupted with your Instagram feed and Facebook updates!
I was sitting in my osteopath’s waiting room last week, when I looked around, everyone was on a phone. I had to laugh because I was also on mine. So, I put my phone away and just sat there. I took in the room and just allowed myself to be. It was really quite nice. You should try it!
A few days ago, my partner and I decided to try a little experiment. We deleted all our email accounts (I had 4) from our phones and all social media (except Instagram on mine). Nick doesn’t have any form of social media. So, he didn’t need to worry about that step.
Initially, I was hesitant. My mean girl was telling me I am going to miss out on big opportunities and that this isn’t a good idea. But, I gently thanked her for her concern, and decided to follow my intuition which was saying, “GET RID OF IT!” instead.
Instantly, we both felt a massive sense of relief. I realised my phone was constantly attached my hand. It was pulling me out of the present moment. I felt married to my iPhone. Now don’t get me wrong! I think iPhones are awesome. But, do we need to be attached to it 24/7? HELL FREAKIN’ NO!!
Being in the present is imperative. However, you can’t be present if you are constantly liking photos and twitting.
I want to invite you to try this little experiment. If you can’t bring yourself to delete emails and social media try a few of these suggestions:
- Turn off your emails at 6 p.m. Then, turn them back on when you start work in the morning.
- Move all your social media into one folder titled: Think Twice.
- Turn off all social media notifications.
- Instead of having five different forms of texting, just stick to one.
- Streamline all your email address’s into one place or just have one email account.
Give it a go for a week and see how you feel. Notice your stress levels and whether they have decreased.
What do you think of this experiment? Are you up for the challenge? Report back to me after you have given this a go for a week.