Path to Wellness http://pathtowellness.com.au Live the life of your dreams Thu, 10 Apr 2014 19:00:45 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 The Worst Thing I Could Have Done Leading up to My Wedding http://pathtowellness.com.au/the-worst-thing-i-could-have-done-leading-up-to-my-wedding/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/the-worst-thing-i-could-have-done-leading-up-to-my-wedding/#comments Thu, 10 Apr 2014 19:00:45 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5931 Melissa Ambrosini

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As you read this, I will be popping the last few bits and pieces into my suitcase and heading to the airport because…

I AM GETTING MARRIED NEXT SATURDAY, BABY!

(Can you tell that I’m just a tiny bit excited?!)

It’s funny how people assume that leading up to your wedding, you must be incredibly stressed and overwhelmed. To be totally honest with you, the wedding has been a breeze. A piece of raw cake, in fact. Everything has fallen into place perfectly and been quite effortless. Nick and I have had a ball planning and organising everything, and six months to plan my dream day has been plenty on time. All I gotta do now is show up. Oh, and buy an organic nail polish for the big day ;)

However, I want to be really honest with you. You see, this week I have been stressed and overwhelmed, but not because of the wedding. It’s actually been about the lead up.

I have had to consciously let go of expectations over how the lead up (in particular this week) would pan out. I’d envisioned this week a certain way: getting massages, catching up with my girls over pots of organic herbal tea, and lots of lazing in the sun. I imagined being relaxed, peaceful and excited, with plenty of time to soak up the moment. But holy friggen heck, has it been the complete opposite!

To fill you in with a bit of the behind-the-scenes stuff, as well as getting married, I have been coaching clients + running a live B-School program + putting the final touches on my new site + working on my new program + playing step Muma + still living my life and doing everything else that comes with that. I worked from 8am till 10:30pm yesterday without a break. I am pooped to say the least, and my Mean Girl has popped her head in a few times:

You always fall in a heap when you’re tired.

You’re going to get sick and run down.

What if you get a cold sore before the big day?. 

Fear, Fear, Fear.

The only way I can dissolve this is by letting go of my expectations and coming back to the present moment. It’s that simple, really: all the expectations have to be dropped. So as I lay in bed last night, I completely surrendered. I made peace with the present moment, immersed myself in the power of my breath, and kept bringing my attention back to the here and now.
I reminded myself…

Everything in divine time. 

You can only be disappointed when you have expectations. 

There is only ever the present moment.

When we place expectations on ourselves, our friends and our family members we are always going to be disappointed.

A lesson I continue to need to be reminded of.

So, here’s to letting go of the expectations we place on ourselves and on others. Just drop it all now and show up with an open heart. That really is all we can ever do.

So now I want to hear from you, my darling. What is one expectation you want to let go of right now? Share with me in the comments below. Open you heart, dig deep and share with our beautiful tribe. The thing you want to let go of might just inspire someone else to do the same.

Thank you so much, as always, for sharing your truth in the comments. Your generosity blows me away.

I love you to pieces.

Love Melissa

P.S. I am now taking two weeks off to go get hitched! We’re getting married next Saturday, then going on a little ‘mini moon’ until our big honeymoon to Europe in August. I can’t wait to share all the love-soaked stories and photos of my day with you.

Sending you all buckets of love! xo

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How to Find Your Purpose in Life‏ http://pathtowellness.com.au/how-to-find-your-purpose-in-life%e2%80%8f/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/how-to-find-your-purpose-in-life%e2%80%8f/#comments Tue, 08 Apr 2014 02:00:49 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5926

How do you find your passion and purpose in life? And how do you live it?

Two questions I get asked often.

Firstly, I just want to make it crystal clear that your purpose and passion in life aren’t things you need to go out and find. They find you! It’s within you and always have been. But what happens is that somewhere along your journey, someone told you that you can’t make money from your passion – it’s too hard, too expensive, too unrealistic – so you set it aside. You put that passion on the back of the shelf, up the very top, and let it sit there to collect dust. From there, weeks, months and years go by. In the meantime, you get a ‘normal job’, which you despise, and which leaves you feeling creatively depleted, uninspired and bored as bat-shit.

I very nearly fell into that trap. When I finished year 12, I applied to get a Bachelor of Business at the best university in Brisbane, Queensland University of Technology. I got accepted, but I applied out of fear. I applied because isn’t that what everyone does? I applied because that is what my career counsellor and teachers told me to do.

But instinctively, deep down, I knew that it wasn’t the right path for me. My heart was burning to be on stage. So I took a giant leap of faith, and at age 17, I moved to Sydney, got accepted into the best performing arts school in Australia – Brent Street – and trained my tush off. I then had an amazing career as a performer – dancing, singing, acting and presenting all over the world for 10 years.

The thing is, I am way too driven and passionate to let anyone else tell me what I should and shouldn’t do, especially with something like my career. I am so glad I didn’t follow what everyone at school was telling me to do and just did what was true for me.

I was reminded of the importance of following your own truth last night, as I was reading Leo a book. It was called Excuses by Wayne Dyer, and there was a bolt of brilliance in it that spoke right to me:

You can let everyone else tell you why you shouldn’t do something or you can do what’s right for you.

The choice is yours.

It’s so easy to listen to all the well-intentioned people around us telling us what to do (or what not to do) with our lives. It’s much harder to tune out the noise and just listen to your own heart. But if you don’t listen to that inner calling now – if you squash it down and do what you’re supposed to be doing – it’s going to well up at some point in the future.

One day, you’ll finally get a wake up call and realise that you want to – in fact, you have to – go collect that burning passion of yours, dust it off and start living it.

So why not now, beautiful?

I believe that when you are living your passion and doing something you love, work is no longer work. It’s simply sharing your message and being of service to the world.

I wouldn’t call what I do work. Writing, speaking and coaching is hardly ‘work’, because I freaking love it. I get to travel the world and inspire people to be the best version of themselves. I love it and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else right now.

But what if you don’t know what your life’s purpose is?

One of the most common statements I hear is:

What if I don’t have a passion?

If that sounds familiar, ask yourself this:

What lights me up?

What makes my heart sing?

What do I lose hours and hours doing?

There’s your answer, beautiful – right there.

In fact, sometimes the answers can come thick and fast, and start to get overwhelming. There are loads of good ideas out there – thousands, if not millions. Which path should you choose? I see it all the time with my clients – they have 3 awesome business ideas and don’t know which direction to take.

Remember: the world is full of great ideas but only one purpose. 

Getting crystal clear on this is super-important.

Take out a pen and paper and answer these two questions:

What is my passion?

What is my purpose?

I’ll go first…

What is my passion? I am so passionate about helping and supporting people to be the best version of themselves, to karate-chop limiting beliefs and quieten down their Mean Girl thoughts. I love seeing people shine; it truly lights me up. I am passionate about evolution, humanity and love. I am passionate about treading lightly on this beautiful planet of ours.

What is my purpose? I believe my purpose, my mission in this world, is to support, inspire and help others live their best life. To empower them to create lives full of adventure, colour, happiness and overflowing with love. My purpose is to help you shine. To help you fall in love with yourself and become Wildly Wealthy, Ridiculously Healthy and Bursting With Love. I believe everything I have been through – including depression, an eating disorder and being hospitalised for a serious viral infection – was so that I could help and serve others. That is why I am here.

Stop using the excuse ‘but I don’t know what my passion is’, and start to live it. Head toward what makes your heart sing. Dust it off and start to infuse that essence into everything you do.

As my friend Marie Forleo says ‘The world needs that special gift that only you have’. 

It’s so easy to not follow your passion and purpose in life, but let me tell you: I have not come across anyone who has ever regretted following their passion. I have, however, come across loads of people that have regretted shelving it and letting it sit and collect dust for many years.

The choice, beautiful, is always yours.

Now I want to challenge you, my darling, to open your heart and share with me in the comments what your passion and purpose is. Go on, be brave. Your comment, courage, and vulnerability will inspire our beautiful tribe.

Thank you for sharing a piece of you and being so kind as always in the comments.

Love Melissa

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Stop Playing Small & Celebrate Your Greatness‏ http://pathtowellness.com.au/stop-playing-small-celebrate-your-greatness%e2%80%8f/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/stop-playing-small-celebrate-your-greatness%e2%80%8f/#comments Thu, 03 Apr 2014 10:02:26 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5920

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All my life I have played small in order to not make other people feel insecure. I never wanted to stand out and I would go to great lengths to avoid that happening.

Case in point? Back in 2005 when I auditioned for the Moulin Rouge in Paris, I got down to the last five girls. But my best friend (let’s call her Naomi) didn’t. I felt awful. I was so worried about protecting her that I even started deliberately not dancing as well. I didn’t want Naomi to feel inadequate, so I pulled myself right back. In that moment, I was shrinking, clamming a lid over my light.

When I found out I got accepted, I remember my first thought being “Oh no, I hope Naomi is ok!” I didn’t even really stop to celebrate the fact that I had just been accepted into the Moulin Rouge – it’s a massive deal in a professional dancer’s world and I completely missed it.

This ‘playing small’ business has been a bit of a recurring theme for me. A few months ago, I had a reading with Ophira – one half of the amazing Astro Twins. The session was awesome, with loads of aha moments and potent insights. But one of the most profound things she said to me that really hit home was that in my past lives, I was always the second best, the supporting actress. Never the star but always the sidekick, I never got my turn to shine. She then informed me that I have come back in this lifetime to learn how to be okay with my own greatness. To figure out how to sit comfortably in my own personal fabulous-ness and finally let myself shine.

This all resonated so deeply with me. I could feel the truth of her words echoing in my body. After my session, this quote by the amazing Marianne Williamson came to mind:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Even as I sit here and write this post, I feel uncomfortable.

What if people think I’m bragging or that I’m up myself? 

Maybe I shouldn’t post it? 

Maybe it’s better if I shrink down and delete this post? 

Shhhhhhhhh, mean girl.

Celebrating how truly great you are can be a massive challenge. In fact, it can trigger a lot of stuff to start bubbling up – in both yourself and those around you. It’s tough to let your light shine, to really own it.

But the thing is, it’s really necessary if you want to step into your power and embody your full self.

Now, this doesn’t mean you need to be the best at everything, or that you need to suddenly live your life in the spotlight. All I am saying is that you need to shine and celebrate your greatness, whatever that my look like for you.

We also need to start celebrating our greatness every day, not just when we kick big goals like launching a product, finishing uni, buy our first home or get married. Celebrate the little things that happen. Like letting go of an old limiting belief. Closing the door on your Mean Girl or choose love over fear when you would normally be swept up in anxiety.

Those precious small-scale moments are equally as important to celebrate as the big ones. And they’re a truly powerful way to start allowing yourself to expand into your full potential.

Now my question to you my darling is this: Do you shrink in order to make sure others don’t feel inadequate? Open your heart, be vulnerable and share with me in the comments below.

I want to challenge you to shine brighter today. Let your greatness pour out of every cell in your entire body, feel that flow of energy and revel in your divine feminine goddess greatness.

Thank you so much for being so generous in your comments. You’re insights help so many others in our tribe.

Keep shining!

Love Melissa

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I Come From The Land Of ‘What Ifs’ http://pathtowellness.com.au/i-come-from-the-land-of-what-ifs/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/i-come-from-the-land-of-what-ifs/#comments Tue, 01 Apr 2014 01:31:52 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5914

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As well as being a health and life coach, I also help a lot of women in their businesses. We work out ways for them to create their dream life with a kick-ass business to match. Yesterday, I was chatting with one of my beautiful clients about her website. I asked her why she doesn’t have a sign-up box anywhere on her site. After some um-ing and ah-ing and tiptoeing around the question, she said “Because what if no one signs up?”

And there they were. Those two words that underpin so many of our fears. What if…

My heart melted for this beautiful soul because that is exactly how I felt in 2011 when I launched my own site and business. What if no one signs up, reads my posts or wants to work with me? What if people think I’m an idiot and hate what I write? What if, what if, what if?

I was plagued by these thoughts. They were running on a loop in my head. But here’s the thing: We can’t live our life in a constant state of what if, but what ifs keep us small. They keep us stuck in a land where our mean girl runs the show. They keep us firmly planted in our comfort zone, never daring to live life to the full.

So how on earth do you move past this way of thinking? How do you say screw you to what if?

The secret?

You have to remember who you truly are. Because the truth is, you are an amazing, infinite being. Capable of anything and everything your heart desires. And if you knew how truly magnificent you were, you would never entertain a what if ever again in your life.

I hear it all the time:

What if I get sick again?

What if I can’t afford it or they fire me?

What if he leaves me or breaks my heart?

When you only subscribe to these limiting what ifs, you’re closing yourself off from the boundless potential inside you.

What about the flipside?

What if you are fine, healthy and strong?

What if the money shows up because you had the balls to follow the feeling?

What if you fall even more madly in love and take each other to depths of intimacy you’ve never been before?

If you want to experience being wildly wealthy, ridiculously healthy and bursting with love, you must let of go of those old what ifs and start opening yourself up to the new ones. Allow yourself to be here and experience this one beautiful, precious moment, the only moment we truly have. Connect in to your core and feel the raw, unbounded possibility that lives in each and every second.

Now, I want to challenge you. What are your what ifs, my darling? What do you keep telling yourself over and over again? What’s keeping you small? Share with me in the comments below. Awareness is key for true transformation, so once we’ve shone a light on our limiting what ifs, we can then choose to let them go. We can then start to consciously move beyond them.

Remember, your comment may be the one spark that truly inspires someone else to take action, so go ahead and leave your story below for our beautiful tribe, and if you liked this post please share it with your loved ones so that they too can start to let go of their limiting what ifs.

Thank you for being so freaking awesome and sharing your heart-fuelled comments – you have touched my soul and many others.

Love always

Melissa

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7 Things I do To Not Let Stress & Overwhelmed Sneak In http://pathtowellness.com.au/7-things-i-do-for-stress/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/7-things-i-do-for-stress/#comments Thu, 27 Mar 2014 09:00:14 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5903

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I come from a highly stressed, anxious, ‘go at a million miles per hour’ type family. Unconsciously I had embedded these traits, habits and behaviours. In 2010 I was hospitalised and on the brink of a nervous brake down… this was my wake up call. On top of that my immune system decided to pack up and go on holidays.

For the past few years I have had to work really hard at implementing new habits to live in a stress free, calm, peaceful space (I am talking internally as well as externally). I’ve had to learn how to tame my Mean Girl and not let her run the show. Usually stress isn’t warranted and can be avoided with some conscious awareness.

Tune in with yourself and ask…

“What is making me feel stressed right now?”

Stress causes the release of cortisol in the body. This puts your body into ‘fight or flight’ mode preparing the body for whatever triggered it. Over time, this is not a good state to be in. While cortisol is an important and helpful part of the body’s response to stress, it’s vital that the body’s relaxation response be active so that it can return to homeostasis following a stressful event.

However, in today’s high-stress culture, often your stress levels don’t have enough time to recover. The down side is – high levels of cortisol for extended periods of time have been shown to be seriously detrimental to your immune system, and your digestive tract. High stress levels cause negative reactions such as insomnia and hormone imbalances, just to name a few. This is why, not only for our mental health but our physical health, we need to keep our stress levels down.

These are the 7 things I do daily to not let stress and overwhelm sneak in:

1. Meditation.

Meditation is a great way to calm your mind and bring you back into the present moment. The best thing about it is… It’s free! You can do it anywhere at any time. All you need to do is sit cross-legged on a cushion or upright in your chair, car, bus, plane, park bench – anywhere. Make sure you are comfortable with spine straight and chin tucked in. Your shoulders should be down and relaxed. Make sure you have turned your phone off and removed any distractions. Then, sit quietly and concentrate on your breathing. Slowly breathe in and out through your nose. Please note that thoughts will come into your mind when you sit still. But when they do, just gently let the thought go and bring your attention back to your breathing. Repeat this for twenty minutes first thing in the morning and again just before bed. If you’re new to meditation, start with five or ten minutes and slowly increase the time as your meditation practice improves.

2. Yoga

Yoga encompasses the body and the breath. So, it’s not only a great form of exercise, but it incorporates meditation to slow down and calm the body and the mind. Try a yin yoga class or take yourself through a few sun salutations each morning. There are loads of yoga resources online such as Yoga Glo (so no excuses). Try to get to your favourite yoga class a few times a week or do it at home each morning to really get the benefits. Schedule it in your diary to make it happen.

3. Get in touch with nature

Kick off your shoes and walk barefoot on the beach or in the park. Feel the sensation of the earth beneath your feet. Leave your iPod, phone, and watch at home. Take the time to connect with Mother Nature. Better yet, dive into the ocean. There is something so healing and meditative about the ocean. It is extremely cleansing and revitalising. Your body and mind will love you for it. Make the commitment to connect with nature at least once a day. Before I dive into the ocean, I repeat everything I want to let go of. Then, as I dive in, I let everything wash away from me. It’s very powerful!

4. Drink herbal tea

If you’re feeling uber-stressed, coffee is not going to help, sweetheart! Coffee is a stimulant. Drinking it whilst in a stressed state is like adding fuel to a fire. Try drinking a cup of warm, organic, herbal tea instead. I love The Seventh Duchess teas. The ritual of drinking tea, for me, is very calming. Either with my besties or alone, there is something about tea that really makes me slow down and connect. Taking yourself away from your computer and doing something nurturing will also give you a physiological boost. Give it a try!

5. Get grounded

Lying like a starfish on the grass is extremely grounding. Look up at the clouds and take long, slow, deep, belly breaths. Feel the earth beneath you supporting and grounding you.

6. Dance and sing your heart out

I love to sing, especially in the car and in my office. Your bedroom is also a great stage… mic (hairbrush) in hand and door closed (or open), release your inner Beyoncé. This releases loads of stored tension in the body plus it releases feel-good endorphins. One of my fav tracks is Roar by Katy Perry.

7. Laugh

Don’t take life too seriously. Make sure you laugh every day. If you’re feeling stressed, call someone who will make you laugh. Or invite your besties over for a hilarious ‘rom-com’ marathon. Laughing also releases feel-good endorphins, so get giggling!

Important note: Whatever you do, don’t eat when you’re in a stressed state. This shunts blood flow away from your digestive system. You don’t want this when you’re trying to digest your food. You will end up very bloated and gassy. So, chew your food slowly and consciously in a calm and peaceful environment.

Remember, nothing is worth sacrificing your health over. Stress is not good for us or anyone around us. So, let go of what is stressing you out and come back to the present moment where bliss and love hang out together.

Now, I want to challenge you. In the comments below let me know which one of these 7 tools are you going to implement today? YOUR comment matters because YOU matter and it may inspire or be the one thing someone else needed to see.

So go ahead and leave your comment now.

Love always Melissa

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Are You Wildly Wealthy? http://pathtowellness.com.au/are-you-wildly-wealthy/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/are-you-wildly-wealthy/#comments Mon, 24 Mar 2014 21:33:01 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5891

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Let’s talk about money, gorgeous. Something I haven’t spoken a lot about on my blog but I think it’s about time.

How is your relationship with money right now?

Are you a tight ass? Do you have povo consciousness? Are you frivolous? Or do you have scarcity mentality?

Be really honest with yourself and write it down.

I [insert your full name] am very ………………………. with money.

I’ll kick off with mine…

I Melissa Ambrosini no longer put a lot of power in money. I believe money will always show up for that which is true for me. I believe the only limitation is in my mind and I believe I will always be supported. I believe that when I have fear around money I am not coming from love.

Now, I haven’t always thought like that. I used to have a very toxic relationship with money. I had scarcity mentality and a lot of fear around money. I always thought I was going to run out and there was never going to be enough. So from the age of 15 I saved, saved and saved every cent I could out of fear of one day losing it all. But whilst I was doing all that saving I didn’t live my life. I became a tight ass and acted like I had no money out of fear of losing it all.

I wasn’t born with a scarcity mentality, like every belief it was something I learned. But from where?

Both my parents came from not a lot of money. They worked incredibly hard to allow my brother, sister and I to grow up with a different experience to what they had. My Dad immigrated to Australia from Italy when he was 6 and couldn’t speak a word of english. He worked really hard to learn english and left school in year 10 to start working to ‘make a living’.

Never get too busy making a living that you forget to make a life. 

My Muma studied nursing and at age 21 was completing her finial exams only months after giving birth to my older sister. She studied all through her pregnancy and up until my sister was 2 years old, they lived with my Nonna in her tiny house until they got their own.

They both worked their butts off. I credit my drive and entroprenual passion to them.

So, how did this effect my relationship with money?

Deep down somewhere in my parents they too were scared they may not have any money one day and may not be able to provide for us. Unconsciously I felt this fear and took it on. So all my life I carried around the belief that I too may run out and not have enough. Until about 5 years ago when I started to look inward I realised that this wasn’t my truth and that I was carrying around their fear and it wasn’t actually even mine.

I believe we are abundant beings and can create what ever our heart desires. 

I believe the money will always show up for that which is true for you.

I believe we are only limited in our minds. 

But realising this wasn’t my truth wasn’t enough. Everytime that limited thought would rear its ugly head I had to stop it, remind myself of my truth and let it go. It’s hard work when you had 24 years of conditioning ingrained into you and don’t get me wrong it still sometimes pop’s up it’s head. But it does get easier and the more and more you catch that old limiting belief the easier it gets.

You see your relationship with money is a reflection of all areas in your life. If you are a tight ass with money you will be tight in other areas of your life included your relationships with yourself and others. It’s a great barometer.

So, what are your beliefs around money right now? Are they even yours or are they your parents? Or your partners? Or your school teachers? Check in and be honest with yourself. If it’s not your belief then what do you believe in my darling? What is your truth?

Take a moment now to write this down.

I [insert your full name] believe that ……………….

It’s a nice idea to get your partner to do the same so that you both know where each other stands. It’s very hard if you aren’t aligned on this topic.

I want to encourage you to stick this belief on your fridge in order to help yourself break the old limiting habit. Call your partner out when he entertains his old belief and get them to do the same from you.

We have to take action to break the cycle. 

The reason I am sharing this with you because once I shifted my relationship with money that’s when things started to flow a lot more effortlessly for me. And I want the same for you. But in order for things to flow we have to get honest about our beliefs and patterns first. I highly recommend having a beautiful open honest conversation with your partner to make sure you are both aligned on the topic. It makes things very difficult when you’re not.

And if you partners (or anyone for that matter) try to instil their money fears/beliefs into you gently thank them for their concern but kindly remind them of your belief around money. What’s your truth is actually none of anyone’s business. Remember opinions are like assholes everyone has one.
The most important thing is that you are truthful and honest with yourself.

I really hope this post helps you and your relationship with money.

I am itching to hear from you my darling, what is your relationship with money like? Share with me in the comment below so that we can recognise where we are playing small so we can start to play big.

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You Are Your Own Guru http://pathtowellness.com.au/you-are-your-own-guru/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/you-are-your-own-guru/#comments Sun, 16 Mar 2014 21:43:42 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5879

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When I first started on this inner journey toward my path to wellness, I was seeing an energetic healer, kinesiologist, holistic chiropractor, life coach, health coach, acupuncturist, reki master, body worker, naturopath, herbalist, Chinese doctor, western doctors, and meditation master. I was doing yoga, oiling, pulling, juicing, getting colonics and much more—all whilst spending thousands of dollars in the process. Essentially, I was hoping for these people and modalities to fix me. I so desperately wanted someone else to do it for me, to help me. Fix me. Save me.

The problem with this was that I put all my power outside of myself—in these people and healing modalities. I forgot that I am my own best guru. None of these people or modalities can do it for me.

You are your own best guru. 
Remember that, gorgeous! ;)

Don’t get me wrong! These services and healing modalities are definitely supportive and incredibly power. They are great tools to help you on your journey. Heck! I still use some of them. But, they aren’t the final answer…You are! You have, within you, the power to heal yourself. All you have to do is make the conscious decision to heal. 

I just finished reading Dying to Be Me by Anita Moorjani. In it, she talks all about being her own best healer after her near death experience. I highly recommend this book! Ms. Moorjani talks about how she lived in a constant state of fear which fed her cancer. Dying to Be Me is a must read.

When I realised I was my own biggest guru, it was such a profound moment for me. This meant I was in control of my health and happiness. With this realisation, then, comes responsibility. It’s a responsibility some aren’t willing to accept. That’s okay, too. The main thing is to do what’s right for you.

It really is quite simple.

Now I want to hear from you, my love. Have you put your power outside of yourself before? Are you relying on people or things to fix, change, or improve you? Share with me in the comments below.

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My Daily Non Negotiable’s http://pathtowellness.com.au/my-daily-non-negotiables/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/my-daily-non-negotiables/#comments Sun, 09 Mar 2014 05:50:24 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5875 I recently shared with you what a day in my life looks like. I had a few people ask me these questions:

“What happens if I don’t get to do all that I want to do in the day?”

“What if you have to get on super early flights?”

“How do I cope when my day doesn’t look like that?”

These are all very valid questions.

The way I see it is s#%t is going to come up. Stuff will happen and your day might not pan out exactly how you had envisioned it. But that’s okay. The most important thing is to not be attached to the outcome. I love it when my day flows like this. But I also don’t care if it doesn’t. I am not attached and I don’t have any expectations. It just is what it is.

I believe that, when we put these strong rigid structures or routines in place, they can actually do more harm than good. You can start to feel stressed if you don’t completely stick to your ideal day. Or, you may feel guilty for listening to your body and sleeping in a little longer and missing your morning class. Stress and guilt are far worse for your health and overall wellness than missing a few yoga poses. Remember that.  The key is to be relaxed and flow with your day.  Don’t be married to the idea that your day has to pan out a certain way.  Set your intention. Then, flow with it.

But I must mention even when my day goes tits up, there are still a few non-negotiables for me that I won’t let pass.

These are some of them:

 

  • Meditation: It doesn’t matter how busy, tried, or cranky I am. I always meditate at least once a day. Sometimes my second one might fall off. That’s okay. I always make sure I get in at least one. Even with an eight-year-old running around, I still manage to get it done. It’s totally doable!
  • Yoga: Even if it’s for only ten minutes, I make the effort. My yoga mat is always rolled out in the lounge room and ready to go.
  • Good Food + Clean Water: I am the type of person that would rather wait until I get home to eat and drink instead of eating something out that is not so nourishing. Extreme? Maybe! But my health is far too important to succumb to toxic chemicals and fluoride-ridden water.
  • Love + Connection: This is super important to me. I make sure there is always loads of love flowing through me and the people I come in contact with every day. I make sure I do all things with love.

What are your non-negotiables? I would love to hear them. Share with me in the comments below.

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I Answer Your Top 5 B-School Questions http://pathtowellness.com.au/b-school-questions-answered/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/b-school-questions-answered/#comments Mon, 03 Mar 2014 05:39:56 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5858 With all the buzz on the inter webs about B-School I wanted to make sure you are super clear with any questions you may have so that if you’re still sitting on the fence and hanging out in fear town you can make the best decision for you.

Last week I hosted a live jam to answer all your questions + I gave loads of advice and insights around my business and what has and hasn’t worked for me.

Watch the replay of my LIVE call below (skip to minute 10.40 where we actually start!)

 

Here are the top 5 burning B-School questions:

1. I am a busy Mum with 3 little ones and work part time. How much time will B-School take up? Will I be able to handle the workload?

The best thing about B-School is you can go at your own pace + you have life time access to it.

2. I don’t have a business and don’t yet have a defined business idea. Is B-School still for me?

Hell yeah, baby! This is exactly what Marie and I will help you hone in on and get crystal clear about. When I first did B-School 3 years ago I didn’t have a business idea but it all unfolded as I showed up. All you have to do is show you for yourself beautiful.

3. I wouldn’t have a clue about products or launches, will B-School and your bonuses help me get me started in that direction?

I had NO IDEA about this stuff before I did B-School. Marie makes is digestible and easy to implement. Plus I am also about to marry an online marketing and products launch guru. Kinda handy!

4. I can’t afford the full payment, is there payment options and what If I want a refund?

Total tuition is $1999 and Yes there is a payment option of 4 payments for $549. And yes there is a 30-day money-back so your risk is… zero.

5. It runs every year, should I just start next year?

In a year from now you will wish you started today. What are you waiting for? Your dream life is waiting. Your business isn’t going to take off on it’s own you have to take action. Remember there is only evolution and we have to keep moving forward. Don’t put off your dreams any longer.

There are only a few days left until B-School closes for the year so if you have any questions that I may have missed just pop them in the comments below and I will get back to you asap.

Remember B-School closes this Wednesday the 5th of March and if you want my Unbeatable B-School Bonuses make sure you go here >> 

P.S. Check out the Unbeatable Bonuses and goodies that will accompany you through B-School at absolutely no additional cost >>> 

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The Pity Party Dance Off http://pathtowellness.com.au/the-pity-party-dance-off/ http://pathtowellness.com.au/the-pity-party-dance-off/#comments Sun, 02 Mar 2014 21:42:16 +0000 Melissa http://pathtowellness.com.au/?p=5838

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Over the years, I have  struggled with how to deal with my feelings. Whenever sadness, anger, or frustration rose within me, I really didn’t know how to deal with them. So, I simply suppressed them, which isn’t a good idea. I was always searching for the tools to deal with my feelings.

Then, one day, I came up with The Pity Party Dance Off.  The Pity Party Dance Off allows you to experience feelings fully and then let them go. Here is how it works:

Step 1: Whenever a feeling arises, immediately allow yourself to feel it. Go into a private room:  the bathroom, the stock room at your work, a broom closet, or your home’s pantry. Any private spot will do just fine. Anywhere you will be alone and can fully express yourself.

Step 2: Once you enter the room put a ten-to-fifteen-minute (depending on the severity of your feelings) timer on your phone.

Step 3: Once the timer starts, allow yourself to express fully exactly how you are feeling in the moment. Maybe you need to cry, scream into a pillow, punch the air vigorously, jump up and down, shake out your entire body, or simply sit in complete stillness and just breathe deeply. Please note: You will intuitively know exactly what to do in that moment.

Step 4: Fully feel and express yourself until the timer goes off.

Step 5: Once the timer goes off and you have fully allowed yourself to feel exactly what it is you needed to feel, repeat this to yourself: ____________ [Insert name], I love you and you are safe. You can now let this go and move on. 

Step 6: Then, play your favourite soundtrack on your phone. I love Rihanna’s “Shine Bright Like a Diamond” (It always makes me feel like a superstar!) or Katy Perry‘s “Roar”. Dance your heart out. Bonus points if you sing along as loudly as you can. This will instantly snap you out of your funk.

I personally have found this to be the best technique for allowing myself to quickly shed feelings and not have a week-long pity party for myself like I used to. Let’s face it: S#@t is always going to come up in our lives. But this technique allows you to fully feel it, shake is off, and then let it go.

The next time a feeling rises within you, have a Pity Party Dance Off. Let me know how it works for you.

 

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